“All this time I’ve loved you
And never known your face
All this time I’ve missed you
And searched this human race”
– Gorecki, Lamb
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Subtle energies are shifting and people are waking up in a spiritual sense, as we enter into an age where twin flames are finding each other around the world. But how can someone know about twin flames if they haven’t encountered one, and what makes someone in a relationship so certain they found “the one” – their twin flame? A fair question to ask of anyone.
Specifically me. I’m still single, so what the hell do I know? It’s something that has been with me every waking moment of my life and became a major theme throughout The Sirin Chronicles especially with Aengal during A Dawn of Dreams. It’s something I’m always reading about and studying in some way – meditation, dreams, automatic writing, and other people’s experiences and stories. It’s something I’ve already written about and will likely keep returning to it in the future as the journey of discovery continues.
A twin flame is that person that when you meet them and catch their gaze, you realise you’re looking at someone who’s soul mirrors your own. The world falls away and time stops. Nothing else matters but the bond between yourself and this stranger who has your heart racing and pulsing as an overwhelming force of magnetisms tugs at your essence, pulling you closer to this new person. You know without a doubt that they’re the one you’ve been looking for, that they’re a half of your being you hadn’t realised you were missing. All the world is blessed in a golden dew and wonder, and you know you’ve found what you were searching for all along.
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“So ancient is the desire of one another which is implanted in us, reuniting our original nature, seeking to make one of two, and to heal the state of man.” – Plato, Symposium
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Common traits of a twin flame union:
- A sense of destiny. You feel as though you’ve been searching for this person your entire life, and further beyond. You’ll recognise them from dreams, from the repetition of a particular face you see repeatedly through life, and a deep sense of de ja vu. They’ll likely be a new comer to your life when you least expect it, a stranger, but you’ll know without question who they are.
- Along with the sense of destiny, you’ll likey discover how closely your paths have been to each other. You’ll talk of places and events and wonder how you missed each other at so many different times.
- You sense each other’s essence and are fine tuned to their energies. You can tell what the other is feeling by feeling it within yourself. You’ll feel their physical presence when they’re nearby like magnets pulling together.
- You bring out the best in each other and can both be your true selves. More often than not, you’ll be polar opposites of each other; from your personality to the experiences you had in life. Yet together you naturally find the middle ground and temper each other’s excessive opposites while still maintaining the individual self.
- Your values and what you seek from life will be aligned to each other. From spiritual beliefs to profession and life goals. Maybe you want to eat more sustainably and organically and your partner has a green thumb. Perhaps you dream of travelling without ever leaving and they turn out to have itchy feet (or you finally take a leap of faith and travel solo for yourself only to find them along the way without looking.)
A true twin flame is rare to find and is often mistaken for a soulmate or a false flame – both types of karmic relationships. A soulmate is someone who enters your life to teach you something about yourself and leaves again. They often enter as a romantic partner, though they can often enter your life as a family member, a friend or a stranger who leaves a lasting impression and some kind of lesson. A false flame is someone who appears in your life in a very similar way to a true twin flame, only they bring your shadow side to the surface along with any demons and secrets. These encounters usually come with a sense of foreboding, an ominous flutter in the pit of your stomach. Often the signs are missed or overlooked for the deep surge of lust that overcomes.
It’s highly likely that someone will come across the false flame long before finding the true twin flame as, like with soul mates, the false flame will teach you a great deal about yourself. Your fears, your flaws, and all the things you dislike about yourself, or try to ignore. The love between false flames is wild and intense, oftentimes even negative. Both false flames together are being challenged to face up to and admit their shadow sides, and to learn multiple truths about themselves and what being in union with another soul means. There’s no knowing what these lessons could be as they are unique to each person and where they are along their path.
Nauthiz (ᚾ) from the Futhark runes is a wonderful icon to work with when it comes to false flames and self discovery. Much like Death and Tower in the Major Arcana of Tarot, Nauthiz is often seen as a negative rune as upright or reversed it signifies challenge and lessons. However it is a rune which is part of the cycle of self transformation and shares a very similar energy to the of The Tower. What no longer serves you? What must be shed to move on?
When it comes to twin flames, many sites and sources will cite that a part of a twin flame union includes testing and conflict, the “Dark Night of the Soul” or Void, and being a runner/chaser to a relationship. People cling to the relationship or their conviction that that person is the one, thinking they’ve found the twin flame. They hold on to the ideals that they can run long enough to escape their destiny, or to catch up and seize it.
As with The Tower card from Tarot. The Tower appears when someone is holding on to something or refusing change. They’re holding themselves back, perhaps keeping themselves to their very own ivory tower. In a reading, the card is sometimes a harbinger to some sort of change appearing which brings chaos and upheaval; or it is a warning to do some self discovery and find out what harmful and negative ways and/or thought systems you holding on to. The person who receives The Tower will be, or will have, been shaken to their very core and begun to question everything. The Tower may burn down, but it can be built again and better so.
The idea of such strife being a necessity to a relationship is an entirely unhealthy thought process which has see people cling to negative (and potentially abusive and harmful) relationships believing that what they were experiencing was simply a part of twin flame union and if they hold out, it will all work out. Conflict comes from the ego and fear, though often those open up the person to more of themselves. It is in letting go of the fear and moving passed the false flame, and finding the true self, that someone is then open to receiving their twin flame.
Sometimes a person will encounter more than one false flame. Each cycle of relationship akin to a stage of metamorphosis and the shedding of old skin. It can take many incarnations for one soul to find their twin flame in the physical realm and the journey for finding such a love is a challenging one – especially when faced with the artificial love of a false flame and a world that is gradually becoming more and more detached from the physical.
But when the twin flame does finally appear in your life, known that it was worth the wait. No matter the darkness that came before, a twin flame relationship cannot be tarnished by shadows and demons by the time they encounter each other for the process of transformation and re-birth has been completed. A twin flame union is one of phenomenally high vibration and purest intent. It is a love like no other and greater than you could imagine.
If you think of the stereotypical “one true love” from fantasy, there was never the negativity with the lovers. When they met, they knew at once they had found their true love, their twin flame. There was no fear, no ego, no need to control the situation or each other, only the deep sense of knowing they were meant to be together. No matter how hard circumstances around them tried to pull them apart, destiny would always find a way to bring them back together. Together, their lives complemented each other while remaining their own much like the concept of Yin and Yang.
Of the people I have come into contact with that would be considered in a twin flame union, there was none of the toxicity that circulates the internet. Sure, there will always be tides of conflict – such is human nature – however they navigate the troubles as a team and find their way together, they aren’t driven apart by the hardships or driven to fury and rage. They’re also couples that new immediately that they had met “the one” and when they finally entered into a relationship, remained together to this day or as wedding vows go, ’til death did them part.
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Finally…I couldn’t possibly write about twin flames and not include a video of The Lost Song (all parts) by Anathema.
